Let's rewind and remember that for the last 6 years, Teddy was at the same school. For the last 5 years, Teddy had the same teacher. We had a lot of consistency, mutual understanding and a deep understanding of Teddy (which takes time and effort since he's non-verbal). So needless to say, any transition, no matter how amazing the school and the team, was a bit nerve-wracking. We prepped as best as we could with a transitional IEP ... followed by another IEP the week before school to ensure Teddy's safety plan was sufficient. (That's a whole long story that will never get told, but it was a summer of advocacy to make sure we got what we needed.) And we had another IEP in December to recertify Teddy's qualification for special education (ugh, don't get me started on that IEP).
It's been a learning curve for everyone.
Teddy's team is learning him and how to best support him (and manage his challenges). They finally saw his full true colors about 1.5 months into school because of a med change and fully adapting to middle school. After a rough week, things settled back down. He made friends quickly, despite knowing no one aside from AJ and his friends and the neighbor girls at school.
Teddy's learning middle school expectations, which are different than elementary. He's held to a higher standard for academics and focus, and sometimes he meets that challenge. Other times, he demonstrates his great leadership skills by forcing his classmates to do his bidding with hand-over-hand support for them. He gets to experience bits of band class, which he enjoys. He loves that there's a piano in his classroom for rewards.
We're learning what's different in middle school. We're missing the fun art projects and Christmas gifts that we always got in elementary school ... along with the always entertaining concerts. Communication was a big challenge until the December IEP. We decided to use a Google doc, so we've been getting daily updates from various teachers and now have a great way to provide updates from home. This has been a game changer for all of us.
With so much to say about the last four months, I'll share 2 highlights:
One of our neighbor girls is in 8th grade. As weird as it sounds, 6th and 8th graders share gym class, so we learned that Teddy is in her gym class. It turns out that on the first day of gym, when Teddy was so excited to see a person he knew (because this is a new school for him with no one from his old school), he was insistent on playing with her. Other kids asked, "You know him?" And, bless her heart, she immediately responded with, "Yeah, you got a problem with that?" I'm sure the other kids were more curious than anything how she knew the new boy who doesn't speak, but I love how she immediately went on the defensive to protect Teddy. That girl may cause gray hair for her parents in her teen years, but I'll love her forever for this.
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| I love everything about this. Teddy's clearly loving his delivery gig. |
The other is his life skills/teen life class. The teacher is amazing! AJ adored her when he took summer school class with her and had teen life last year. In fact, he was tempted to give up band because he loves her that much as a teacher that he wanted to take her class this year in 7th grade. This class is the single best class for Teddy in my opinion. It focuses on life skills, primarily cooking and baking, though laundry and cleaning are also a part of it. But it also incorporates all his other skills (OT, PT, speech and social) in a super fun setting. The stories from this class are the absolute best, and Teddy shines in this class more than he ever will with reading, writing or math. One of the cool things the students do is deliver treats throughout the school, practicing all their valuable life skills. I'm so glad that Teddy is able to have this class continue next semester. (And that is a good story that I probably will tell in another post.)
