Ducks

I'd like to submit photographic evidence that my ducks were in a row. One time. At least for a bit.

That's me and 6 ducks in a row!

This was made possible in part by our Huckleberry Hiker, which allows us to hike with Teddy (down a rocky, steep, trail and through river crossings, as was the case with this hiker). It helps when the most unpredictable duck is strapped quite literally into a chariot that I'm pulling. But still, it counts as ducks in a row!

Family Photos

Last weekend we spent the weekend at our land with all our big kids, otherwise known as the Bigs or our adopted children. These incredible young adults aren't really our children, nor are they really technically adopted in the legal sense, but they are indeed our big kids ... an extension of our family.

Teddy is the catalyst for all these relationships, as most of our Bigs are caregivers (past or present) for Teddy. Throw in a few COVID bubbles, friendships fostered among the Bigs, and somehow we're all family. We now have 3 adopted daughters and 1 adopted son (who happens to be the biological brother of one of our daughters, so we're treated to some authentic sibling bickering, too, at times!). Add one long-term boyfriend to the mix, and we had 5 extra humans at our land last weekend, all of whom both our boys adore. 

This makes my heart so darn happy. They fill spaces in our lives that we didn't know were lacking. They choose to spend time with us, and they genuinely seem to enjoy hanging out with us. Plus, we're past all that teenage angst, drama and hormones with the Bigs. 

So while you might expect our family photo to look like this:

The reality is the one that is more accurate and complete is this:

Winter Picnic

One of my favorite winter traditions is our winter picnic. This winter hadn't cooperated with a lack of snow, then insanely cold temperatures and then a very busy February. So when the weather looked beautiful this past weekend - highs in the 30s - I reached out to my dad to see if we could do the picnic, even though we wouldn't have Dave because he was in Florida for work.

My dad said yes, which is good because just a couple days later the unseasonably warm temperatures destroyed our snow. And snow is a crucial element for winter picnics because a winter picnic includes rides on the incredible snow tube contraption my dad designed and built years ago (probably 8 years?). 

So the boys and I headed to the farm for a fun-filled day. It felt different, for sure, without my mom, as she was always willing to ride the tube and entertained Teddy for periods while we got things set for the picnic. But she'd be happy to know the tradition continues and that more fun memories were made.

In recent years, Teddy has been skittish about riding the tube, preferring to ride the ATV with Grandpa instead. This year he was all in for several tube rides with AJ and asked to ride with Grandpa while AJ drove. He was all smiles, even if I couldn't capture them through the windshield of the ATV.

We had so much fun we weren't even jealous of Dave in Florida.

The weather was beautiful, the fire cooked our hot dogs and s'mores perfectly, there were tractors to ride and there were even a couple shovels for Teddy and Grandpa to dig in the snow together. (Of course, Teddy kept trying to dig my adult beverage out of the snow, where I was storing it between sips for supposedly safe keeping.)

As we pulled into our driveway at the end of the day, after our 2+ hour car ride home, AJ thanked me out of the blue and commented how much fun the day had been. Now that he's a teenager, those type of unsolicited thanks and praise resonate even more.

The boys convinced Grandpa to ride the Beast.

A Hiking We Will Go!

Ya'll, life does not slow down. It's about to get extra crazy here, so I wanted to share a quick update since we got our Huckleberry adaptive hiking cart. 

If you've followed our journey for a while, you've seen me post multiple times about hiking because it's a key part of our vacations and our life. While we don't get to hike as much as we'd like with kids (and Teddy in particular), hiking has allowed us to explore so many incredible things. You can read out our hiking adventures ... at least some of them ... here. And you can read the bittersweet end to hiking while carrying Teddy here. 

We truly thought that was the end of our hiking journey with Teddy, unless we could take his adaptive chair on a particular trail. Then we discovered the Huckleberry available for pre-order this spring and ordered one within a week! (A huge thank you to our generous family member who helped sponsor Teddy's Huckleberry!) 

Teddy's Huckleberry arrived in the last couple weeks, and we've taken it for spins around the yard and two actual hikes. It was definitely a learning curve for all of us, as Teddy was pretty skittish and uncertain about riding in it at first, but he's now more than willing to clamber on for a ride. 

Amazing friends help pull (and stabilize) your child!

Yesterday two of my amazing friends joined me for a hike with Teddy, and we had a great time. I'm thankful for strong friends to lend helping hands who love Teddy and have a sense of adventure because we certainly needed it for part of the trail as you can see in the video.

We're looking forward to many more hikes and adventures with this!

A beautiful scenic overlook (up the side of a Wisconsin mountain).

Monday Musings

With beautiful weather this evening and an extra hour of daylight, we headed outdoors after supper to enjoy it. AJ and Dave went for a walk, while Teddy and I logged some running miles. As we ran along, I noticed that while not everyone smiled and interacted with us, the vast majority of folks did indeed smile at us. 

Now Wisconsinites are generally pretty friendly, so it's not unusual to greet strangers. What I noticed, though, was that most of the people who smiled at us were smiling as we approached. I realized, and said aloud to Teddy, that he simply brings people joy. I'm sure that his excitement to be outdoors and running was what brought a smile to their faces.

At the end of their run, Teddy and I visited a park to play for a few minutes while we waited for Dave and AJ. He loves parks and asked for it each time we ran past.

Teddy's a fan of parks any time and any where. Dave, not so much.

There were a couple boys around Teddy's age who had waved at us as we ran by the first time and waved again when we stopped at the park. I asked if they knew Teddy, and I heard them acknowledge they did. Teddy ran right up to them, and one of them hopped off the swing for Teddy to take a turn. 

When Teddy ran off to the playground structure to climb, the one boy encouraged the other to go play with Teddy. So, they did ... after singing the Barbie song. I figured Teddy was fine playing with his friends, so I walked his chair over to the picnic area before coming back to stretch.

It was really sweet to see them all playing together. The 2 boys included Teddy, offering him turns to race down the slides with them and encouraging him up the playground structure the one time he struggled because he was trying to scale up the wrong spot. I hadn't caught their names when I asked them the first time, so I tried to fish around to figure out which classroom at his school they were in to piece it together perhaps. 

I asked if they were in Teddy's classroom, and they both said no. Imagine my surprise when both of them said they went to different schools. *Whoops. I clearly misheard them when we first arrived at the playground.* 

I asked how they knew Teddy, and they said they didn't but they just liked making new friends. Then one of the boys said, "Not to be rude, but does he have a disability?" I shared that Teddy has autism and a genetic disorder. 

Well, the second part prompted quite a few questions to help them understand what that meant. I explained that Teddy doesn't talk like us, but he uses a tablet, sign language and gestures to communicate. The one boy said, though, "Oh, he's just like other kids but he doesn't talk." I said that it takes Teddy longer to learn to do things, like walk, but that he loves to have fun just like they do. 

The autism part they understood, so they questioned whether I knew every autistic child they knew. The one shared about his brother's autism diagnosis and how his brother loves to read about the things that interest him. 

The boys complimented Teddy's chair and thought it was really cool. They asked how far we ran, and I told them we ran 4 miles. The response was awesome from one of the boys: You're mom of the year! So I told them Teddy runs in races with it, and that we use it for biking.

That prompted the more outgoing boy to share that he loved riding bike with his dad, but his dad wasn't able to go for bike rides now. I got the sense where he was going before he said his dad was locked up for something he didn't do ... and that he won't see him until 2026. That broke my heart for him and made me realize, yet again, how blessed our family is to have a stable family unit despite the challenges that come with Teddy. 

That's about when Dave and AJ arrived, so we had to leave. I walked away a bit in awe of what had just occurred. Given how the boys interacted with Teddy, I would have sworn they were peers at his school. Instead, they were just being good humans who didn't think twice about including someone new, lending a helping hand where needed and seeking to understand and make connections. Seriously, I didn't even mention that Teddy didn't talk until the end of the conversation because, again, I thought they all knew each other. 

It was just a heart-warming moment of the best of humanity ... from two 5th grade boys. (And lest you think they were angels dropped into our lives, I can assure you they were 5th grade boys who also swore at least once and one bagged the other by accident. Pretty sure they're human.)